Ditching Discussion

Anonymous asked:

I feel like even if you don’t like a place or don’t feel welcome, you shouldn’t just ditch it. You should at least make an effort to notify the admins and/or the people you’ve made plots with. It’s terribly annoying for someone to just up and leave without notice if they made a character for you. Even if you aren’t feeling a board, maybe if you actually make an effort to talk things through, it can change. I can’t think of any real circumstance where ditching is preferable to communicating first

Anonymous asked:

I definitely understand no longer being interested in a site, but as an admin, ditching after being accepted is annoying because it leaves a huge mess for us to clean up, especially if you’ve already been involved in threads etc. Because then the staff isn’t sure if you’re coming back, you’re hogging claims, and you’re being pretty rude to the people you’re plotting / RPing with. There’s nothing wrong with leaving…Just please, PLEASE let somebody know.

Anonymous asked: 

I definitely think that ditching is annoying. I mean why go through all the trouble of writing an app and not do anything after? It just seems pointless and gets people’s hopes up. Even if you have been on the site a while ditching I think is really passive aggressive. If you have a lot of threads with different characters and you just up and leave it’s very disconcerting. I mean at least post you’re not interested or your life is too busy. The fact is even if you’re just tired of the board or your muse is drained, just say so. It’s much more annoying that you don’t say something and slink out the back.

Anonymous asked:

Unpopular opinion here (hence the greyface) but if people are really rude to me on a site or it’s cliquish or something like that, I have no problem leaving without notice. But I’m talking only if they were extremely rude, because it’s obviously good manners to say why you’re leaving. I know I’ll get flack for that, but that’s just my opinion. I try to be a good member and I try to stick with something, but I can’t staaand rude admins or cliquey ones.

Anonymous asked:

I hate it when people ditch, but I also think there are definite cases in which ditching is completely understandable. The other comments I’ve read on the subject say it’s rude when people just leave when they’ve already plotted and they’re involved in threads, but I feel like most people who ditch are people who feel like they haven’t had a chance to ingratiate themselves with the board. On the very rare occasion I ditch, it’s because I have no plots or threads and it’s not for lack of trying.

Anonymous asked:

If you ditch on admins and all of the people who have ever plotted or threaded with you without saying anything, I don’t think you have much room to complain about ‘rude’ admins or ‘cliquey’ members. What you’re doing is just as bad. At the very least, people should be able to talk to you and see if they can’t change your mind. It’s like one day, you just stop showing up to your volunteer position or your rec league team without any notice, and you blow off any attempt to contact you.